The perfect date should be reserved for special situations. Notice that I did not say special celebrations. Those are an entirely different kind of date. In addition, perfect dates are not meant for a first date or even the first few dates. Early dates should be very inexpensive and short.
Perfect dates should be for someone who you are in love with or falling in love with. A close second would be someone who you are very captivated by or strongly interested in knowing better.
The perfect date is one where you carefully orchestrate the entire date to make it extraordinarily special. Some aspects of how you should behave are counterintuitive.
Research & Arrangements
The key is to select an unusual activity, venue, or location. Here’s what I mean. Chose an activity that your date has never done or hasn’t done for a very long time. An unusual activity might be hot air ballooning, river rafting, or parasailing. An unusual venue might be a unique restaurant or nightclub. And an unusual location might be a performing arts center in another city or a cafe’ in an uncommon place.
Here’s the key to impressing your date and having a good time. Visit the venue in advance. For example, with a restaurant, check out the menu, look for the best table locations, and generally get the layout of the facility. If you’re considering a nightclub that you’ve never been to before, I definitely suggest you check it out ahead of time. You want to make sure it has the kind of music and vibe that your date and you enjoy. You’ll also be a lot more confident when you arrive if you’ve been there before.
Here’s a tip that is sure to impress your date. If you know the restaurant server, nightclub security, or parking valet, visit them a few hours or day(s) ahead and give them an extra tip. You’ll be amazed at what they’ll do when you arrive. It’s not just the tip that motivates them, but also participating in something unusual and fun.
You’ll, of course, want to make sure that your date will enjoy what you have planned. Some cleverly worded questions should give you the information you need.
Invitation & Agenda
If it’s an expensive date I recommend a grand invitation. You could do this by attaching the invitation to a flower bouquet delivery. Although many guys like flowers, you could send him a plant or tree instead. Men like getting wood. 🙂
Surprises can be fun, but some people don’t like surprises. I don’t, for example. Like many people, I want to know what we’re doing so that I can plan specifically for it. So be sure to find out whether your date likes surprises before you do it.
I have found that there are advantages to presenting an agenda for the date in advance. It creates anticipation, generates sexual buildup, and gives your date a lot of time to prepare to be their best.
If you’re still getting to know them on a deep level, you might try this. Propose a question or list of questions ahead of time to answer during the date. Or bring some questions to pick randomly during your date. If you pick the right questions, this activity can be very exciting and enlightening. You can learn a great deal about a person using carefully crafted questions. For ideas, read this article entitled, “Dating Questions for Successful Relationships.”
When you present the agenda, don’t tell them everything. Leave part of your plans a mystery. Tell them the things they need to know to prepare and maybe a few teaser hints. But do not oversell it or build it up in any way. The goal is to undersell and over deliver if you know what I mean. This is the best way to surprise them.
Preparation & Mindset
If you prepare to the utmost you’ll be more confident and you’ll have more fun. Preparation is not only about grooming, it’s also about getting your body and mind in top form. Here’s what to do on the day or days leading to your date.
For your body, get lots of exercise, eat only healthy food, cut out alcohol, get some sun, and get lots of rest. Do these things and you’ll feel like super man/woman by the time of your date.
For your mind, picture yourself behaving flawlessly on your date and establish a carefree attitude on whether your date will like you. This last one is the counterintuitive part.
Our tendency is to be on our best behavior so that our date will like us. You’ll, of course, want to be well-mannered and nice. But if you work too hard at trying to make them like you, you’ll appear desperate and pushy which is a turn off.
You have to establish a mindset that you’re just going to be yourself and if they like you great and if not you’ll find someone else who does. You do this by reminding yourself that there are millions of people in the world who could be as good or better match than the person you’re dating. So to put your date on a pedestal as though they are the only one for you is absurd.
Just fix your thoughts on being yourself and having a good time. Cancel out thoughts that have any expected or “must have” outcomes. Do this and you’ll appear confident and attractive naturally!
Execution & Adjustments
Since you’ve researched and perhaps visited the venue, your date should go smoothly. But don’t tie yourself to an exact agenda or plan. Go with the flow and make adjustments as needed. By approaching your date in this way, you’ll be more spontaneous and natural.
Some of the best experiences can be those unexpected opportunities you come across during a date. Don’t hesitate. Go for things as they are presented to you. You never know, maybe the universe is conspiring to bring you both together. 🙂
Goodbye or Good Sex
Whether the date ends with goodbye or good sex, is unimportant. The goal is to create a perfect date experience. In doing so, you’ll certainly plant a seed that may lead to the outcome you want. It may happen on the day of your date or later, but when it does, it will be perfect!
Don’t try to duplicate the date and don’t plan another perfect date for a while. Just let them digest and savor the experience for a few days. See how they respond to your efforts.
If they don’t show any appreciation, don’t waste your time and money again. Just put them on your “avoid” or “maybe” list and move on. If you’re already in a committed relationship, try a different approach — maybe a romantic getaway will work. If, on the other hand, they show great appreciation, continue to invest in the relationship and see if they do the same.