To attract your dream partner you must first become a dream partner. It’s easy to overlook this part. We have high expectations on what we expect of a partner without considering if we meet them ourselves.
Here are the top criteria that most of us have when we’re seeking a partner for a committed relationship. Instead of looking at them as criteria for the other person, we are going to evaluate whether we meet them ourselves.
Loyal
Are you ready to be loyal to just one person? Or do you still want to play the field? Either is okay. But if you pick the latter you must be honest with those you date and not expect them to be loyal while you play.
This is true even if you’re a guy. Many guys expect their partner to be loyal without holding themselves to the same standard. Then they are overly and unfairly suspicious of unfaithful activities by their partner.
If you want a partner who is loyal to you, then you must be ready to be completely loyal to them.
Attractive
Are you fit and attractive in the way that you expect a partner to be? Or do you need to lose some weight and start working out?
If you want a partner who is slim, fit, and drop-dead gorgeous, you must get yourself in shape first. If there’s one area that most people have direct control over it’s their weight and fitness. So there are no good excuses.
If you want a partner whose appearance ignites your passions, get fit, cut, and screamingly good-looking. Keep in mind that attractiveness isn’t always about being extraordinarily pretty or handsome. More often, it’s about mastery over your body and self-confidence!
Together
Do you have your life together? Or are you expecting your partner to save you or bail you out?
If you are deeply in debt, emotionally fragile from a prior relationship, and unstable in your career, you need to get these things in order before you seek a partner.
If you want to attract a partner who is financially sound, emotionally strong, and moving toward definitive career goals, then you need to become that yourself first!
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There are many more criteria, but these common ones should give you an idea of what you need work on to attract your dream partner. If you fall short of becoming a dream partner, you’ll attract a person at the level you’re at. But why settle for less?