The underlining attributes of those who know how to be a great date are maturity, intelligence, and class. All of these characteristics work together to make dating experiences fun, exciting, and fulfilling.
Have a specific and well layout plan for your date. This means learning about the destination, making reservations, and finding out how to get there.
Don’t show your immaturity and arrogance by having no plans when you arrive. Demonstrate your organizational skills instead. You’ll have a much better time and your date will respect you for it.
Have a positive attitude about how you expect the date to go. If you expect it to go poorly, I guarantee that’s exactly what will happen.
Be optimistic without having unrealistic expectations.
Be on Time
Be prompt. Don’t be early, but don’t be more than a couple of minutes late. It’s disrespectful to be late. And it’s immature and classless.
Show some class and be on time.
Focus all your attention on your date. This isn’t the time to check out other people as they pass by.
Do this even if you discover that the person isn’t a good fit for you romantically. Who knows, maybe you’ll make a new friend. Keep your repetition intact by being respectful and kind.
Give them your attention and you’ll get their admiration.
Avoid Ex Talk
Don’t talk about any topic that includes your ex. Don’t include your ex’s name or former status (husband/wife, boyfriend/girlfriend) in any sentence.
If the conversation leads to a discussion about an ex, just refer to them as an ex or past relationship.
Keep your conversations free of mood-killing ex-talk.
Concentrate on Listening
Being a good listener is more important than being an “interesting” talker. Listening is also the best way to learn about the person you’re dating. Do all the talking and you’ll miss the opportunity to determine their character.
Questions are your instrument for creating meaningful conversation and for discovering whether your date is a good match for you. Refer to this article entitled, Dating Questions for Successful Relationships “ for ideas.
Listening and observing is more valuable than talking and trying to impress. Your date will be more impressed by your listening skills than your theatrical performance.
Focus on Fun
Make having fun be your primary goal for the date. Remove expectations and just go with the flow. Just have the intention of having a good time and making a new friend.
Don’t make discovering the love of your life or getting laid your objective. If you do that, you’ll likely present yourself as being overly anxious, insecure, and pushy.
Just focus on having fun and everything else will fall into place.
Being confident on a date means you don’t need to use sweet-talk or flattery to get your date to like you. Here’s what I mean.
Don’t be overly nice. Just be yourself. You almost have to not care whether your date likes you. That doesn’t mean you’re impolite or self-absorbed. It just means that your self-esteem will not be hurt if they don’t like you.
Don’t be overly complimentary. Telling them they look nice should do it. Save the more specific and passion filled compliments for down the road when the time is right.
If you’re too nice and too complimentary you’ll come off as being disingenuous and insecure. Just be confident, straightforward, and polite.
End it Memorably
During the early stages of dating a new person, long drawn out goodbyes are rarely memorable. They are usually awkward.
Keep the closing conversation short and direct. Just say, “Thank you. I had a good time.” Don’t make plans for your next date then. Let things percolate for a while. Contact them in a few days about that.
If a kiss is appropriate, make it quick but really nice. Then say “goodnight or pleasant dreams” and walk away. Don’t linger. Leave them wanting more! 😀
Being a great date is a learned skill that is acquired through experience. The more you learn about dating techniques and the more you apply them, the better you’ll get. The payoff is an increase in the quality and quantity of partners and more dating fun, excitement, and satisfaction.