How do you handle holiday events when you’re unattached? Specifically, what mindset do you have?
Here is the typical holiday schedule.
- Thanksgiving *
- Company Holiday Party
- Private Holiday Parties
- Christmas Eve *
- Christmas Day *
- New Year’s Eve
- New Year’s Day
* Or other national or religious celebration.
The traditions of our society were originally established based on the couple, marriage, family model. Although unattached singles have become more accepted, longstanding customs linger that can make them feel out-of-place at holiday events — if they allow themselves to get caught up in this line of thinking.
There’s nothing wrong with being an unattached single. There is no reason to feel anything but confident and joyful at holiday events. If you appreciate the benefits of being unattached and are grateful for them on a continual basis, your confidence and joy will shine through. When others see your contentment, some of them will likely be jealous of your uncommon freedom! If needed, here are some articles that go into more detail.
- Single, Unattached, & Happy
- Advantages of the Singles Lifestyle
- Being Single Can Be an Abyss or Bliss
Many unattached singles feel compelled to find a “date” to go with them to their company’s holiday party. I think this is a mistake. If you want to make a good impression, wouldn’t it be better to go with someone who loves you than someone you’re using as a fill in? Just go to the party alone and enjoy yourself.
If it’s important to you to be in a relationship, don’t fret. You’ll eventually find a new partner. Just don’t waste this time when you’re between relationships. Take advantage of it to become a better person and partner. For more on this issue, read this article: “The Space Between Relationships.”
If you want some real holiday fun singles-style, organize your own holiday events. Or start a new project on your own or with a friend. These two articles will give you some ideas.
Happy Holidays. 🙂