The singles lifestyle has many advantages. Here are a few key benefits.
When you’re an unattached single, you have extraordinary freedom not available to anyone who’s married or in a committed relationship.
Outside of your career, unless you work for yourself as I do, you can do what you want when you want. You buy the food that you want. You buy the appliances and furniture you want. You buy the televisions, computers, and vehicles you want. You buy the houses and vacation homes you want. You come and go as you please. You eat when you want. You stay up as late as you want. You get up as early as you want. You slept in as late as you want.
When you’ve been in a committed relationship for many years, it’s easy to lose sight of this level of freedom. You can actually forget that it’s even possible.
Right after you’ve ended a long-term relationship, the pain of the breakup and the shock of suddenly being alone prevents you from appreciating the freedom that you now have. After a few weeks or months, depending on how long you were together and how difficult the breakup was, you’ll begin to enjoy your new freedom. If it’s been years since you were last single, the freedom can be invigorating.
If freedom is very important to you, then the single life may be your best choice. At least until you find a partner who values freedom as much as you do.
Fewer Responsibilities, Aggravations, & Problems
If you go all the way and decide not to marry or have children, you will avoid a host of ongoing responsibilities, aggravations, and problems.
I recognize that there are many wonderful advantages to having a family that you’ll not experience by choosing the single life. It all comes down to the way you are built as an individual. Some people are made for the family life. Others are made for the single life. Some people are well equipped for marriage. Others are poorly equipped for marriage. What we’re talking about here is aptitude. In your heart-of-hearts, are you marriage material or are you bachelor/bachelorette material? Are you a family person or an adventurer?
There are still problems to deal with as a single person, but there are fewer than if you had a spouse and children.
Complete Control of Your Life
There are no 50-50 decisions, agreements, or deals when you’re single. All issues are decided by you and you alone.
There are no changes in plans, detours, compromises, or concessions. Everything goes according to your wishes every day, week, month, and year.
When you get up on Sunday morning as a single person, everything that you have in mind for the day goes according to your plan. The same is true in how you plan your career, your vacation, your home, and your retirement. There aren’t any arguments, discussions, or debates. It’s simply all up to you!
If having full control is important to you and you’re are comfortable with making all your own decisions, then the single life will work well for you. If having full control is not important to you and you prefer to make decisions with a partner, then the married life will work well for you.
There are many more advantages to the singles lifestyle. In fact, I could probably write another 5,000 words about the joys of being single. But the benefits I just described are the most important ones.
Enjoy the advantages of the singles lifestyle.