The goal of this article is to help you discover the best places and situations for you to find the love of your life! To get the most out of it activate your imagination and creativity.
Best Situation for Finding Them
After you have a specific image of the person you are seeking, where do you go to find them? The best situation in which to find them is in the environments where you are the most comfortable, doing the activities that bring you the most satisfaction, and in the company of people who you feel the most confident. It is in these circumstances, when you are happiest and most relaxed, that your life will most likely intersect with the one who’s right! This is because it is extremely probable that the person you’re seeking has elected to be in the same situation, for the same reasons, that you have. And your common frame of mind will magnetize you toward each other.
The greater the passion that you have for something, the greater the likelihood that you’ll find a strong connection with someone. And the stronger the connection that there is, the greater the chance for fulfillment and joy in the relationship.
Rediscovering Your Greatest Passions
So what are your greatest interests and passions? What activities fire up your spirits? Intellectual pursuits? Personal development? Artistic endeavors? Athletic activities? Home improvement? Technical interests? Is it in the environment in which you choose to live, or visit, that brings you the greatest amount of passion and joy? Perhaps you like living in the country or in the mountains where there are fewer people and life moves at a slower pace. Or maybe you get a great deal of satisfaction from going to the beach, the park, or other recreational areas. Whatever locations inspire you the most are the best places for you to meet a quality match.
Whatever your greatest interests are, or wherever you most enjoy spending your time, it is in these pursuits and places that you are most likely to find the love of your life. Take an inventory of your interests and passions. Do some brainstorming on what gets you excited. Be sure to include activities that you have always wanted to try.
Actually, entering into a new activity that you have often fantasized about is an excellent way to venture out and liven up your life! In fact, it may inspire you to reach out to potential partners in ways that you never thought you could.
Choosing Your People
Finally, what sort of people do you enjoy being around? Which ones make you feel the best about yourself? Which ones are you the most productive with? Try to define for yourself the type of people you enjoy being with the most, and where they are most likely to congregate. An obvious place where they might gather would, of course, be at the activities you enjoy the most!
If you now have a detailed image of what you want in a partner, perhaps there are people you’ve seen or places that you’ve been that you’d like to revisit. Maybe you remember a particular person you often saw at the gym, at the store, at your place of worship, or with a friend or relative that you would like to approach to see if there is any mutual interest.
Commonality at Singles Events is Singleness
Although I do consider neighborhood singles clubs and dating services a resource for finding a partner, I do not place them anywhere near the top of the list, and here’s why. For the most part, the sole objective of most of these services, and those who participate in them is to find a date, and that’s it. Some of them have criteria for matching participants, but the criteria are often limited in scope.
Yes, you will find a lot of single people at singles events, but the only feature common to everyone isn’t their greatest interest or passion, but the fact that they are all alone and looking for a date! This peculiar combination produces an atmosphere of unnatural interactions, unrealistic expectations, and superficial matchings. Therefore, I strongly suggest that you do not limit your search within these venues alone. If you do choose to participate, keep your wits activated. Sometimes the best places to find an ideal partner are in the least obvious locations. This would not be true of online dating services, however. A number of these services do a great job, but to get the most out of it you need to identify your own criteria for a perfect match in advance.
Online Fishing & How to Avoid Sharks
The Internet has created the ability to do many marvelous things. One of them is online matchmaking. Easy access and the means to store millions of profiles from people around the world make this an exciting resource. The key is to find a reputable service with extensive matching criteria. You will find that the identifying process described in my article entitled, “How to Find Love with the Person Who’s Right for You,” will enable you to easily recognize an outstanding service, an outstanding match, and an outstanding potential partner–once you meet. And meeting them is the true test of actual compatibility!
To learn how to pick the best online dating service for you, read my article entitled, ”Online Dating Services – How to Pick the Right One for You!”
Although a computer can select a match based on established criteria, the guidance mechanisms provided by your intuition or gut instincts, and that thing called “chemistry,” cannot be programmed. This because it is not possible to create a computer program that contains the information of your life’s experience, your genetics, and your sexual desires. This is where the tremendous value of the “identifying” process comes into play. It creates a precise image of the right person for you and implants it in your subconscious mind, which in turn shapes your intuition (or gut instincts) and sense of chemistry, which in turn guide you to the correct choice every step of the way. To learn more about using your intuition read my article entitled, “Intuition – How to Access, Recognize, & Trust It.”
Compiling a Dating Resources List
Now it’s time to create a list of all the possible sources for finding a match with your perfect partner. The key is to list every potential source, just as you would with any brainstorming session where free-flowing thought is beneficial, and then trim it down to the best possibilities to explore. Prioritize them by numbering them from one to whatever total you come up with. Keep in mind that it’s going to take many attempts with different people to get a suitable date, and several dates with various individuals to find a good match. The following list will help you get started in creating your list of potential sources. Those that have the greatest potential have the words “Best Place” next to them. Once you have gone through the list, you may be surprised at how many potential dating sources you have!
Bear in mind that this is only the beginning of dating sources that you will discover. The interactions that you have with the people on your list will lead to additional sources, and so on, and so on. And the best news of all is that the pool of potential matches is enormous! So go do some brainstorming. Focus your efforts on the best places and situations for you! And remember to relax and enjoy the process.
- Greatest passion
- Special interest group
- New personal interest
- Place of worship
- Friend of a friend
- Friend of family member
- Old flame
- Missed opportunity
- Online matchmaking service
- Online dating service
- Civic organization
- Gym/health club
- Recreational facility
- Educational facility
- Business facility
- Singles club
- Singles dance
*BEWARE: When it comes to neighbors and co-workers, search your heart very carefully to make sure that this is the right person for you before you reveal your feelings to them. This is important because it would be difficult to avoid them if it didn’t work out, which could make your life miserable. Therefore, it would be wise to avoid including these two (2) categories on your list of best places and situations to find an ideal partner.
The next step is to organize your dating sources into a format that will provide you with direction, motivation, and commitment. Do this by taking each of your dating sources and defining “where” you will find them, “who” you are seeking (if you know), “when” you’ll act upon it, and “how” you will do it. This task may seem like more work than is necessary, but you may find that it provides you with what you need to get yourself to follow through, which is its intended purpose.
Using a word processor with a four (4) column table inserted or on a piece of paper, put these headings across the top: Where, Who, When, How. Then fill in the information in the rows below as described above.
If you need some additional inspiration to carry you through to your goal read my article entitled, “How to Create Relentless Motivation To Find the Right Partner for You.”
The best places for you to find the right person for you is in your mind right now! Go into these places with a mindset of KNOWING that you will find them and you will!