Guru dating and mating are about doing both of these things with intelligence, integrity, and intention. Here’s what I mean.
- Intelligence – Being smart about your approach to dating and mating. This means taking the time to think things through and using the best strategies and wisdom to ensure success.
- Integrity – Being honest, sincere, and authentic during all your interactions related to dating and mating. This means that actions such as lying, manipulating, or deceiving to get what you want, go against your principles.
- Intention – Being positive, purposeful, and expectant in your approach to dating and mating. This means that you maintain an optimistic attitude, have specified goals, and live as though the things you want are on their way to you!
Mating are the activities that led to sex, a relationship, or marriage.
You may scoff at this approach as being too conservative and too much work. But I assure you that the rewards greatly outweigh the efforts. If you want to aimlessly play the field and have a good time without concern for how your actions are affecting others, then ignore them. If you want to attract quality partners and have magnificent experiences, then follow them.
Here’s how you go about guru dating and mating.
It’s not fair to yourself or a partner if you start a relationship from an inferior position. If you want a quality partner, get your mind, body, and finances in order first!
If you’re still in pain or confused about a recent breakup, past relationship of any kind, or your childhood, work through these things before you start dating. If you’re overweight, out of shape, or have periodontal problems, get these things handled or at least on a solid path to resolving them. If you’re severely in debt, get it down to zero or firmly on track to getting it there before you begin looking for a partner. Money problems are the number one reason couples break up.
If you do not have an established set of principles, you are leaving yourself vulnerable to being molded into a partner’s values or lack of them. With principles, you know exactly how to behave, respond, and choose. You will also be able to recognize potential partners and dates who have the same ones you do. Without them, you’ll be blind to this issue.
Having principles like integrity, reliability, humility, courage, and compassion, will create a positive reputation for you in the “dating marketing place” and attract dates and mates who have the same ones.
If you do not have a set of personal goals, there’s a good chance that you’ll end up working to fulfill your partner’s. If you don’t have goals and a plan on how you’re going to find a partner, then you’re probably not going to be too successful.
Having career, fitness, and life goals is sexy! Not having them is a turn-off and boring! Once you set goals on how you’re going to approach finding dates or an ideal partner you’ll have a map to your destination that you can get excited about.
If you do not have specifics on the qualities, characteristics, and attributes you want in a date or a partner, then you are shooting in the dark. You will continuously find yourself in relationships with people who fall short of your true desires, principles, and goals.
To more effectively recognize, attract, and connect with potential partners who are a good match for you, a precise target needs to be created that includes the qualities, characteristics, and attributes you want and do not want most in a partner — and even a date. Devote some time to this task and see if you notice the difference.
Make the most of your dates by orchestrating them. Do this not only for those individuals who you feel have long-term potential but also for those who appear less promising for fun and skill development.
Planning dates involve…
- Doing research to find exciting and enriching places and activities.
- Researching, contacting, and/or visiting selected venues in advance.
- Coming up with a list of clever, interesting, and exciting questions.
There are many other ways to plan your dates, but I think you probably get the idea.
If you have a pessimistic attitude about whether you’ll find someone to date or a quality partner, the scenario you have playing in your mind is what you’ll get. The same is true if you have a defeatist attitude when you arrive at a nightclub or singles mixer. Just turn around and go home if you do because you will be wasting your time.
An optimistic mindset comes about through cultivating it until it becomes a habit. This means that when negative thoughts arise in your mind you ignore them and replace them with positive ones. If you have unresolved issues that are preventing you from being positive, then you need to face and resolve them. Just facing and beginning the process of fixing them can dramatically change your outlook.
To find, attract, and connect with the type of dates and mates you dream about, you must develop an attitude that not only is it possible, but they are on their way to you now!
Guru dating and mating are not for lazy, ignorant, or self-centered people. It is for smart, principled, and caring people who are willing to do what it takes to have the best dating and mating experiences possible.