Have you ever gotten stuck thinking that the person you just broke up with is the only one for you and you’ll never find another relationship as good? I know I have, many times, especially in my early years of dating.
I’m pleased to report to you that it’s not true at all. With each failed relationship you learn, grow, and improve your selection skills. So the next relationship you have will be better than the last guaranteed! If you think about it there is no other possibility unless you let the breakup destroy you. The smart course of action is to use the pain of the breakup to improve yourself, a lot! I mean dramatically in every area of your life that you’ve been putting off fixing or working on for years! Do those now!
The pain of a breakup produces powerful energy that you can use to transform or destroy yourself. It’s that powerful. The good news is that this energy when used to transform will soon convert from energy produced from pain to energy produced by accomplishment and success. It’s in this sweet spot that will be inspired to spontaneously approach a new love interest that you would have not approached in the past. It’s glorious!
In that last section, I was thinking about my experiences in this very thing happening to me several times. It has always followed a breakup. Unfortunately, or fortunately for me is really the outcome, I’ve gone through many breakups. But then I’ve had a lot of girlfriends. So I’ve learned and grown a lot.
So… if you just ended a relationship, get up, get busy, and “make your life extraordinary” (Robin Williams, Dead Poets Society).
Make yourself proud. And remember to be kind to yourself.