The things that make a person attractive and charismatic have little to do with how good looking they are. Surely you’ve met people whose good looks are overshadowed by their “negative” self-appraisal, attitude, and behavior. Or their “egotistical” self-appraisal, attitude, and behavior.
You have also likely met people whose “positive” self-appraisal, attitude, and behavior overshadowed flaws in their appearance. That old saying is very accurate, “It’s what is on the inside that really counts.”
The type of genuine attractiveness and charisma I am talking about draws lovers, friends, colleagues, and strangers to you. Those who observe a person with these qualities may respect and admire them for reasons they are not consciously aware of. This may happen even if they do not agree with their philosophies, politics, or religion.
Here’s an example of what I am talking about. Consider those who became a highly successful leader of a country or company even though they did not have movie star looks or a bodybuilder’s physique. Here are some that come to mind: Abraham Lincoln, Franklin D Roosevelt, Margaret Thatcher, Lee Iacocca.
Good looks may help, but if you do not have the internal qualities you will fall short of reaching your potential.
Here are the things that make a person attractive and charismatic.
- Self-loving
- Self-confident
- Self-directed
- Courageous
- Optimistic
- Grateful
- Humble
- Genuine
- Spirited
- Courteous
- Kind
- Cheerful
- Focused
- Alert
- Attentive
- Listener
- Communicator
- Clean
- Fragrant
- Groomed
- Dressed
- Fit
- Compassionate
- Reliable
- Organized
- Knowledgeable
The opposite of these things is what makes a person unattractive. Having rockstar looks or a perfect body are NOT prerequisites or requirements for being attractive. I’ve met many below average looking people who are attractive and charismatic. If you think about it, so have you.