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60/40 Relationship Satisfaction

Tactical Dating Questions
400 questions. Plus 100 ideas & pointers.
Book by Brad Paul, Solotopia

I estimate that 60% of my romantic relationships with women have been a nightmare and 40% have been a pleasure. And of the 40%, only 10% were magnificent. Why?

Looking back it is quite easy to see. I choose to be with women with whom I was not compatible in several key areas. In addition, a few of them had serious character flaws or emotional problems. Had I devoted the time to carefully identify all the things I wanted and did not want in a woman the outcome would have been much better.

But there was another problem: my inability to break away from an incompatible and sometimes toxic relationship. I wrestled with a lack of confidence in my ability to find a better woman and a misguided belief that I could make the relationship better. Also, I did not want to go through the pain or discomfort of a breakup. Then after years of floundering, I finally figured out several key truths and the formula for success.

Here are the truths and the formula.

  1. Each new relationship is always better than the last. Keep that as motivation.
  2. Use the pain of a breakup to make positive changes. Take constructive advantage of this intense energy.
  3. The transition in ending a relationship is like breaking a bad habit. Just give it time to dissolve.
  4. Carefully identify the qualities I must have and must not have in a woman. Let this guide my choices.
  5. Join groups that represent my greatest passions. Best place for compatible lovers and friends.
  6. Get busy living while being open to new relationships. Relax, enjoy, and stay present.
  7. Be fearless in asking women for dates. Remember that rejections often have nothing to do with me.
  8. Tell women how I feel about them. It strengthens my character and plants seeds that may germinate later.
  9. Take a stand with my principles and preferences as issues arise. This builds understanding and weeds out undesirables.
  10. There are many articles (list) on this site that provide more details on the above nine (9) items.

Simple. Ahh… relief, relaxation, confidence. 🙂

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