The way you treat a person who you are dating or in a romantic relationship with will come back to you one way or another. If you treat them with respect, courtesy, and honesty, that’s what you’ll get back. If you treat them disrespectfully, rudely, and dishonestly, that’s what you’ll get back as well.
If a person is infatuated with you and you treat them badly, they may not reject your behavior for a while. But eventually, they will see you for who you are and turn their back on you permanently! Or you’ll be treated badly by another dating partner, or a string of partners, sometime in the future.
If you treat a person with who you’re in a romantic relationship well, regardless of how much you do or don’t like or love them, you will continue to be respected by them. You will also be treated well by other partners who may find that their romantic feelings for you are growing sour.
It’s amazing how this works. It reminds me of that old saying, “What goes around comes around.” Your treatment of others will eventually come back to you in some way. It may come from the person you mistreated or from someone else.
A lot of this behavior happens when we are in our twenties and thirties. The perpetrators of this bad behavior tend to be those who can easily get dates. These individuals are usually especially handsome (men) or pretty (women) or they have some other attractive qualities like power or money.
Good looks, power, and money can draw attention and get dates, but it rarely earns love. Power comes in many forms. The captain of the football or cheerleading team has power. So does the head of a company or political organization. Money alone isn’t the initial attraction as much as how it enables a person to dress and live. Money and power can boost confidence if the person already has a “healthy” self-esteem.
I’ve been often told I was good-looking, especially in my younger years. I never particularly saw myself as being “handsome.” I never gave the issue much thought or attention. However, I did notice that I often had a number of women who were interested in me. I did take advantage of this during different parts of my life.
There were a few times when women treated me badly. Although I was generally kind and honest, there were a few incidents when I did the same. Wherever I treated a woman poorly, it also came back to me in some way. Either she ultimately fell out of love with me or I got similar treatment from someone whom I had a crush on.
I may have been in love at one point, but I never felt the same about those women who treated me badly. This continued to be true even after they made a serious attempt to make things right. We may have become friends, but the deep love and trust were never restored.
So as you can see, the way you treat those who you date or get into a relationship with always comes back to you in one way or another. I’m sure you’d rather have what comes back to you be positive.
Your reputation is built with maturity, courage, and integrity. Your dating and relationship record of behavior will come back to you one way or another.
Keep in mind that your behavior is continually being observed, analyzed, and sometimes discussed whether you know about it or not. Each interaction becomes a part of your personal and public record. It also creates a habit of behavior.
Treat “every” person you meet and date with courtesy, kindness, and respect regardless of whether they interest you in some way or not. Maintaining an admirable standard of behavior like this will come back to you in the form of many unexpected rewards. I can attest to this truth and assure you that the rewards can be very sweet. 🙂