I’ve read a massive amount of material on how to find your perfect partner. This included mainstream books, university research projects, and reputable magazine articles. I even conducted my own study for an independent research course I took for completion of an anthropology degree. And each came to the same conclusion. Compatibility is the most important aspect for having a fulfilling, productive, and lasting romantic relationship.
The more similarities that you have with someone, the greater the compatibility you will enjoy. This is particularity true when it comes to issues that are extremely important to either of you. You’ve got to have the same outlook on these issues or there will likely be conflicts, frustration, and dissatisfaction. Money management, sexual appetite, and child rearing are at the top of the list.
So how do you go about finding your perfect partner? The first thing you need to do is to ignore the urgency to find a partner that is created by retailers, friends, and family. None of these people know the kind of person who is right for you, nor do they know when the ideal timing for finding them is. Your family and friends may have good intentions, but they simply don’t know what’s best for you. Only you do.
Why is it that finding a partner becomes more important during holidays such as Valentine’s Day, Thanksgiving, and Christmas? I believe that retailers have a lot to do with this since they are the ones who heavy promote how we should be celebrating these events. Do merchants do it to promote love, human connections, and family values as depicted in their advertisements? No! They use those emotionally charged issues as fuel to get you to buy their products and generate profits! And they have been extremely successful in creating images and ideas on what holidays and other celebrations should be because they are now apart of our cultural traditions! Look at what the Christmas season has become. It’s now a nearly insane rush to “buy” a bunch of gifts that provide little lasting value to our relationships.
I am making this point so that you don’t buy into this brainwashing by the media and get yourself into a frenzy about finding love or even a date before these events. That would be unnatural. And you would be in the polar opposite state of mind that you need to be in to find a quality match.
Determination is important, but desperation leads to poor choices and it’s a turn off. You have to really want to find your perfect match but you have to be completely at peace with yourself and your life until the moment that you do.
Finding a perfect partner is 90 percent about you and 10 percent about the field of possibilities. You must have your life in order and be comfortable and content being alone. In other words, you enjoy your life as it is but you choose to have a compatible partner join you in your journey.
So what do you do? You get busy creating your best self and best life now! Once you’re well on your way toward those goals, you are ready to start looking for your perfect partner.
You really don’t look per se. But rather you make it a mental priority, you put out vibes, looks, and smiles. And you maintain your awareness of those who may be on the same path as you in looking for someone special to share their life with.
This doesn’t mean that you don’t take action toward your goal by joining online dating services and organizations that represent your greatest passions. Online matchmaking services provide the greatest opportunity to find a highly compatible partner that has ever existed. And getting involved in an organization with other people who share your greatest passion is an ideal environment for meeting a quality match.
The first step to finding your perfect partner is to determine in specific detail the characteristics and attributes of the person you’re looking for. I wrote an article entitled, “How to Find Love with a Person Who’s Right for You,” that describes how. If you really want to create a precise image of your perfect partner and get a step-by-step guide on finding them and starting a relationship, download a copy of my book entitled, “Finding the One Who’s Right.” It may sound like I’m pushing this book, but I’m really not. I just know from my research that my book offers what you need to be successful in a concise and targeted manner. Or check out the list of similar books included in my research in the “Perfect Partner…” section of the recommended books page.
My point is this. In order to be successful in your pursuit to find your perfect partner, you must do the things shown in the list below. You’ll get back what you put into this process. Be lackadaisical or depend on fate and you’ll most likely be sadly disappointed. A 100 percent effort is required for the kind of success that you imagine in your dreams.
Here are the steps.
- Get yourself and your life in order.
- Precisely identify your perfect partner.
- Learn about successful dating techniques.
- Learn about relationship-building methods.
- Create a plan for finding a quality partner.
- Get yourself into a finding love state of mind.
- Take consistent action no matter how you feel.
- Go toward and through any fears and shyness.
All of these steps are covered more thoroughly in my book “Finding the One Who’s Right.”
Continue to do what you’ve been doing and you can count on the same result. Or you can get excited about sharing your life with a highly compatible partner and then begin the process as I’ve described.