Recommended Books

Included is an extensive list of carefully selected books that I have either read, reviewed, or researched. For more information, just click on the book’s title.

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Topic Categories

1. Perfect Partner, Love of Your Life, Soul Mate
2. Dating Skills, Dating Strategies, Online Dating
3. Love, Intimacy, Romance, Sex
4. Couple’s Communication, Art of Listening
5. Breaking up, Divorce, Loss of a Love
6. Singlehood, Being Single, Singles Lifestyle
7. Relationship Skills, Social Skills, Friendship Skills
8. Self Image, End Shyness, Confidence, Courage
9. Life Skills, Wisdom, Motivation, Inspiration
10. Law of Attraction, Thought Power, Awareness
11. Personal Development, Self Improvement, Success
12. Nutrition, Supplements, Weight Loss, Exercise
13. Addiction Cures, Stop Bad Habit, Self Mastery
14. Career, Money Management, Financial Freedom
15. Renewable Energy, Energy Efficiency, Green Living

1. Perfect Partner, Love of Your Life, Soul Mate

• Finding Your Perfect Match by Pepper Schwartz, Ph.D., Perfect Match.com relationship expert.
• Falling in Love for All the Right Reasons: How to Find Your Soul Mate by Dr. Neil Clark Warren, eHarmony.com founder.
• Are You the One for Me?: Knowing Who’s Right and Avoiding Who’s Wrong by Barbara De Angelis, Ph.D. (As seen on Oprah.)
• What to Do Until Love Finds You: The Bestselling Guide to Preparing Yourself for Your Perfect Mate by Michelle McKinney Hammond
• Finding the One Who’s Right: Identify & Attract Your Perfect Partner Offline or Online by Brad Paul, Solotopia founder.
• The Mate Imaging System: Creation Tool, Targeting Map, Destination Guide by Brad Paul, Solotopia founder.

2. Dating Skills, Dating Strategies, Online Dating

• Date or Soul Mate?: How to Know if Someone is Worth Pursuing in Two Dates or Less by Dr. Neil Clark Warren, eHarmony.com founder
• Mars and Venus on a Date: A Guide for Navigating the 5 Stages of Dating to Create a Loving and Lasting Relationship by John Gray, Ph.D.
• Chicken Soup for the Soul Love Stories: Stories of First Dates, Soul Mates, and Everlasting Love by Jack Canfield, Mark Victor Hansen, & Peter Vegso
• He’s Just Not That Into You: The No-Excuses Truth to Understanding Guys (The Newly Expanded Edition) by Greg Behrendt & Liz Tuccillo
• Romancing The Web: A Therapist’s Guide To The Finer Points Of Online Dating by Diane M. Berry

3. Love, Intimacy, Romance, Sex

• Mars and Venus in the Bedroom: A Guide to Lasting Romance and Passion by John Gray, Ph.D.
• The Art of Loving by Erich Fromm (A popular classic.)
• Chicken Soup for the Couple’s Soul by Jack Canfield, Mark Victor Hansen, Mark Donnelly, Chrissy Donnelly, & Barbara De Angelis, Ph.D.
• What Women Want: What Every Man Needs to Know About Sex, Romance, Passion, and Pleasure by Laurence Roy Stains & Stefan Bechtel
• Women Men Love, Women Men Leave: What Makes Men Want to Commit? by Dr. Connell Cowan & Dr. Melvyn Kinder
• The Secret Lives of Men: What Men Want You to Know About Love, Sex, and Relationships by Christopher Blazina, Ph.D.
• Passion Prescription, The: Ten Weeks to Your Best Sex — Ever! by Laura Berman, Ph.D. (For Women.)
• Love Letters of Great Men by John Kirkland

4. Couple’s Communication, Art of Listening

• Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus: The Classic Guide to Understanding the Opposite Sex by John Gray, Ph.D. (Male-female communication.)
• Communication Miracles for Couples: Easy and Effective Tools to Create More Love and Less Conflict by Jonathan Robinson
• Love Is Never Enough: How Couples Can Overcome Misunderstandings, Resolve Conflicts, and Solve by Aaron Beck, M.D.
• The Lost Art of Listening: How Learning to Listen Can Improve Relationships by Michael Nichols, Ph.D.
• Listening: The Forgotten Skill by Madelyn Burley-Allen
• The Couple’s Review: A Non-Confrontational Written Communication System – Featuring the Partner-Relationship Appraisal – by Brad Paul, Solotopia founder.

5. Breaking Up, Divorce, Loss of a Love

• Too Good to Leave, Too Bad to Stay: A Step-by-Step Guide to Help You Decide Whether to Stay In or Get Out of Your Relationship by Mira Kirshenbaum
• How to Survive the Loss of a Love by Melba Colgrove, Ph.D; Harold H. Bloomfield, M.D.; and Peter McWilliams (If you’re in pain, get this book! It has gotten me through many dark nights of the soul. B.P.)
• Mars and Venus Starting Over: A Practical Guide for Finding Love Again After a Painful Breakup, Divorce, or the Loss of a Loved One by John Gray, Ph.D.
• How to Heal a Broken Heart in 30 Days: A Day-by-Day Guide to Saying Good-bye and Getting On With Your Life by Howard Bronson and Mike Riley
• Letting Go: A 12-Week Personal Action Program to Overcome a Broken Heart by Zev Wanderer
• A Woman’s Guide to Living Alone: 10 Ways to Survive Grief and Be Happy by Pamela Stone

6. Singlehood, Being Single, Singles Lifestyle

• Singled Out: How Singles Are Stereotyped, Stigmatized, and Ignored, and Still Live Happily Ever After by Bella DePaulo, Ph.D.
• Being Single in a Couple’s World: How to Be Happily Single While Looking for Love by Xavier Amador, Ph.D. and Judith Kiersky, Ph.D.
• Happily Single: (Before Happily Married!) by Diane Wigstone
• Single: The Art of Being Satisfied, Fulfilled and Independent by Judy Ford
• Living Alone and Loving It: A Guide to Relishing the Solo Life by Barbara Feldon
• Adventures in Singlehood by Susie Shellenberger and Michael Ross

7. Relationship Skills, Social Skills, Friendship Skills

• Mars and Venus Together Forever: Relationship Skills for Lasting Love by John Gray, Ph.D.
• How to Create a Magical Relationship by Ariel & Shya Kane
• How to Win Friends & Influence People by Dale Carnegie
• Making Friends by Andrew Matthews (Wisdom in a nutshell. A favorite author of mine. Concise and to the point writing style. B.P.)
• Intimate Connections by David D. Burns, M.D. (Making close friends & finding a loving partner.)
• How to Talk to Anyone: 92 Little Tricks for Big Success in Relationships by Leil Lowndes

8. Self Image, End Shyness, Confidence, Courage

• New Psycho-Cybernetics by Maxwell Maltz, M.D.  (Opened my eyes.  B.P.)
• How to Be Your Own Best Friend by Mildred Newman and Bernard Berkowitz.  (A life changing favorite.  Here’s my story.  B.P.)
• How to Develop Self-Confidence And Influence People By Public Speaking by Dale Carnegie
• Dare to Be Yourself by Alan Cohen
• Living Fully with Shyness and Social Anxiety: A Comprehensive Guide to Gaining Social Confidence by Erika B. Hilliard
• The Shyness & Social Anxiety Workbook: Proven, Step-by-Step Techniques for Overcoming Your Fear by Martin Antony, Ph.D. & Richard Swinson, M.D.
• The Ultimate Secrets of Total Self-Confidence (Revised) by Dr. Robert Anthony (A favorite author of mine. Concise and to the point style. B.P.)
• Feel the Fear… and Do It Anyway by Susan Jeffers, Ph.D.

9. Life Skills, Wisdom, Motivation, Inspiration

• Being Happy! by Andrew Matthews (Wisdom in a nutshell. A favorite author of mine. Concise and to the point writing style. B.P.)
• Happiness in a Nutshell by Andrew Matthews (All his wisdom in nutshells. A favorite author of mine. Concise and to the point writing style. B.P.)
• The Traveler’s Gift: Seven Decisions that Determine Personal Success by Andy Andrews
• The Noticer: Sometimes, all a person needs is a little perspective by Andy Andrews
• Real Life: Preparing for the 7 Most Challenging Days of Your Life by Dr. Phil McGraw
• The Art of Exceptional Living (Audio) by Jim Rohn (Discusses the principles for truly successful living. B.P.)
• How to Stop Worrying and Start Living by Dale Carnegie
• Tao Te Ching, 25th-Anniversary Edition by Lao Tsu (Ultimate Wisdom.)

10. Law of Attraction, Thought Power, Awareness

• The Secret (Video) by Rhonda Byrne (As seen on Oprah. The movie version is absolutely the best way to learn “The Secret.” B.P.)
• The Secret (Audio) by Rhonda Byrne (As seen on Oprah. The audio version is the second best way to learn “The Secret.” B.P.)
• The Secret (Book) by Rhonda Byrne (Life changing insights. B.P. As seen on Oprah.)
• The Master Key System by Charles F. Haanel (“The Secret” is based on this book.)
• Thoughts Are Things and The God In You by Prentice Mulford
• Ask and It Is Given: Learning to Manifest Your Desires by Jerry & Esther Hicks
• Key to Living the Law of Attraction: A Simple Guide to Creating the Life of Your Dreams by Jack Canfield & D.D. Watkins
• Having It All: Achieving Your Life’s Goals and Dreams by John Assaraf
• Leveraging the Universe and Engaging the Magic (Audio) by Mike Dooley (Easy to understand. B.P.)
• The Power of Intention by Dr. Wayne Dyer
• Power of Positive Thinking by Norman Vincent Peale
• You Can If You Think You Can by by Norman Vincent Peale
• As a Man Thinketh by James Allen
• Think and Grow Rich by Napoleon Hill
• The Magic of Believing (Book) or (Audio) by Claude M. Bristol
• The Strangest Secret by Earl Nightingale
• Excuse Me, Your Life Is Waiting: The Astonishing Power of Feelings by Lynn Grabhorn
• You Can Heal Your Life by Louise Hay
• A New Earth: Awakening to Your Life’s Purpose by Eckhart Tolle (As seen on Oprah.)
• The Power of Now: A Guide to Spiritual Enlightenment by Eckhart Tolle (As seen on Oprah.)

11. Personal Development, Self Improvement, Success

• Spark: The Revolutionary New Science of Exercise and the Brain by John J. Ratey, M.D.
• The Success Principles: How to Get from Where You Are to Where You Want to Be by Jack Canfield with Janet Switzer
• The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People by Stephen Covey
• The Psychology of Winning by Dr. Denis Waitley
• Maximum Achievement: Strategies and Skills That Will Unlock Your Hidden Powers to Succeed by Brian Tracy
• The Seven Spiritual Laws of Success: A Pocketbook Guide to Fulfilling Your Dreams (One Hour of Wisdom) by Deepak Chopra, M.D.
• Unlimited Power: The New Science Of Personal Achievement by Anthony Robbins

12. Nutrition, Supplements, Weight Loss, Exercise

• Super Immunity by Joel Fuhrman, M.D.
• Eat To Live – For Fast and Sustained Weight Loss by Joel Fuhrman, M.D.
• Becoming Vegan: The Complete Guide to Adopting a Healthy Plant-Based Diet by Brenda Davis
• Kiss Your Fat Goodbye: The Ultimate Guide to Losing Weight and Building a Healthy Body for Life by Gary Null, Ph.D.
• Power Foods: The 15 Best Foods for Your Health by Gary Null, Ph.D.
• Ultimate Lifetime Diet: A Revolutionary All-Natural Program for Losing Weight and Building a Healthy Body by Gary Null, Ph.D.
• The New Encyclopedia of Vitamins, Minerals, Supplements, and Herbs: How They Are Best Used to Promote Health and Well Being by Nicola Reavley
• Vitamins, Herbs, Minerals, & Supplements: The Complete Guide by H. Winter Griffith, M.D.
• Super Supplements for Skin, Body & Mind: How vitamins, minerals, antioxidants and herbs can make you look, feel and think young by Dalia Santina, Ph.D.
• Nutrients A – Z: A User’s Guide to Foods, Herbs, Vitamins, Minerals and Supplements by Dr. Michael Sharon
• Lose Weight Now The Easy Way by Allen Carr
• The Complete Guide to Walking: For Health, Weight Loss, and Fitness by Mark Fenton
• The Complete Guide to Training with Free Weights by Graeme Marsh
• Men’s Health Ultimate Dumbbell Guide by Myatt Murphy
• The Great Dumbbell Handbook by Andre Noel Potvin
• 101 Ways to Work Out with Weights (For Women) Cindy Whitmarsh
• Smart Girls Do Dumbbells by Judith Sherman-Wolin

13. Addiction Cures, Stop Bad Habit, Self Mastery

• The Easy Way to Stop Smoking by Allen Carr (I would have quit a lot sooner had I found this brilliant book. B.P.)
• The Easy Way to Stop Drinking by Allen Carr (An inspiring message that does NOT sentence you to a lifetime AA meetings. B.P.)
• The Alcoholism and Addiction Cure: A Holistic Approach to Total Recovery by Chris Prentiss (An inspiring message that does NOT sentence you to a lifetime of AA meetings. B.P.)

14. Career, Money Management, Financial Freedom

• The 4-Hour work Week: Escape 9-5, Live Anywhere, and Join the New Rich by Timothy Ferris (Audio CD) (Very inspiring! B.P.)
• Follow Your Heart by Andrew Matthews (Wisdom in a nutshell. A favorite author of mine. Concise and to the point writing style. B.P.)
• Think and Grow Rich: 70th Anniversary Edition (Updated) by Napoleon Hill
• The Millionaire Next Door by Thomas Stanley, Ph.D. & William Danko, Ph.D.
• The Total Money Makeover: A Proven Plan for Financial Fitness by Dave Ramsey
• Your Money or Your Life: Transforming Your Relationship with Money and Achieving Financial Independence by Joe Dominguez & Vicki Robin
• You’re Broke Because You Want to Be: How to Stop Getting By and Start Getting Ahead by Larry Winget
• The Simple Living Guide: A Sourcebook for Less Stressful, More Joyful Living by Janet Luhrs
• Rich Dad, Poor Dad: What the Rich Teach Their Kids About Money–That the Poor and Middle Class Do Not! by Robert Kiyosaki

15. Renewable Energy, Energy Efficiency, Green Living

• The Homeowner’s Handbook to Energy Efficiency: A Guide to Big and Small Improvements by John Krigger & Chris Dorsi
• Consumer Guide to Home Energy Savings, 9th Edition: Save Money, Save the Earth (Consumer Guide to Home Energy Savings) by Jennifer Thorne Amann
• The Simply Solar House: Green Building on a Budget by Richard Crume & Yoko Crume
• The Homeowner’s Guide to Renewable Energy: Achieving Energy Independence through Solar, Wind, Biomass and Hydropower (Mother Earth News Wiser Living) by Dan Chiras
• Green Goes with Everything: Simple Steps to a Healthier Life and a Cleaner Planet by Sloan Barnett
• Easy Green Living: The Ultimate Guide to Simple, Eco-Friendly Choices for You and Your Home by Renee Loux
• Living Green: A Practical Guide to Simple Sustainability by Greg Horn

Why are renewable energy and green living books being recommended on this website?

Because I believe that this is an area where singles can take a leading role. Singles are already leading a social change on what it is to be single, so why not “marry” this effort with the quest for energy independence and efficiency for everyone!  By taking a leading role in this important movement, singles can improve the quality of their lives and demonstrate their power and value as a community at the same time!

Brad Paul
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